If you opened this post, it’s probably because you want to improve yourself in any aspect. You might not recognize that, but by being here, by being open to read and reflect on this topic, it already makes you a good person. There will always be something we have done in our lives that makes us feel less good about ourselves. And so what? Who never?
How caring for yourself are you?
I decided to write this post because I constantly deal with or observe the following characteristics on people. There are some people who do their best to look like a good Samaritan, in an exemplary, by-the-book way. These people tend to impose their behavior, actions, and choices while criticizing everyone that has different approaches. Others, they feel they have made so many mistakes, or they are so privileged in life, that they do everything in their power to help others, with this immense feeling of never doing enough. And then, the biggest majority who do not have any major mission in life and therefore feel they are not worthy people.
Well, before keeping on, note that I am using the common terms good and bad, which are really relative. I believe there is always good and bad in everyone, but the idea with this reflection is that you stop being so hard on you!
First of all, we all need to understand that, in order to be a good person, to have a positive impact in the world, to actually make the difference and yet to still enjoy ourselves and to fully live our lives with plenitude, we need to first love ourselves.
Remember that you are everything that you have in life; all the rest is relative and might be ephemeral.
Several months ago I was having a conversation with someone very close to me, and I was telling her how I feel bad that I don’t do more. I don’t volunteer to major causes, I have a hard time facing people who I see as vulnerable, or with hard living conditions, as well as hunger or deep poverty. Although I have been working on those feelings my whole life, trying to strengthen up, I still have no emotional structure to deal with those situations. However, I also don’t donate money or sponsor children from third world countries. At the time of this conversation, I was going through a quite tough time in my life and it was being hard to put myself together. This person told me something that made me think: “honey, how can you give water to someone else if your glass is almost empty?”.
Fill your glass, so it can overflow to others…
As time passed by, I kept those words in my mind. First I started looking at myself and I started recognizing that by being myself, by being loving and caring to those around me, by being respectful to everyone, as well as aware and empathetic for world issues, I was already being a good person. Even at that point, where I felt so down, in the shadow, lost and unsure, I didn’t need to crash other people to get where I wanted to be; I would genuinely feel happy with other people’s happiness and achievements; and I still had emotional support to give to someone asking me for comfort. At that point I had nothing else to give, I had no energy to take action towards a charity cause or even emotional strength to volunteer in a hospital.
But again, those words kept resonating in my mind and every time I would have the impulse to criticize myself, I would actually vocalize them so I could hear my voice.
When my glass filled up, I did not decide to volunteer, I did not choose a cause to donate money to and I did not decide to sponsor a child in need. But I discovered what I needed to do – what actually made sense to me -, and that’s how the idea for Arunny was born. As hard as it has been to keep it alive, I don’t give up, because now I know what I am meant to do.
And you? Do you think you are a good person? Do you identify yourself with any of the profiles I described above? How well do you take care of yourself before taking care of others? I will love to hear!
And if your glass is empty, the first drop would be my love to you <3